|
||||||||||||||||||
    
|
|
 Whitney was right. I do want to dance with somebody, want to feel the heat with somebody, with somebody who loooooves me. But now may not be the time. It really is a constant struggle to maintain a semblance of a social life and have a career, and to date. And dating is so hard. I recently had a guy send me countless text messages saying not very nice things after I didn't accept his offer for a second date. That was the moment when I decided dating is not for me. I do not need random men berating me by mobile phone. Independence really isn't so bad. In fact, I lead a much healthier lifestyle when I'm sans man-friend. I eat what I want, when I want to, and let's just say that I tend to make healthier food choices than the majority of the men I've dated. Instead of snuggling up to a big, burly man at night I hit the gym, do an exercise video or wander aimlessly around the streets of New York City. When my last relationship ended I lost 30 pounds, not from dieting, but just from returning to my normal eating patterns. You heard it here first: guys are fattening! The mental health of being single ain't so bad either. Let's just admit it, being in a relationship opens up the most vulnerable and uncertain sides of ourselves. In five seconds flat, I can go from laid-back and rational to totally crazy in the presence of feelings. So why not enjoy the plethora of rationality that comes with autonomy? And then there are my friends: while I've never been one to let friends fall by the wayside because I'm dating someone, singledom is great for fostering friendships. Getting dressed up to go out and laugh and drink with the girls is pretty much heaven on earth. I will admit that I am indeed over the age of 16 and have had a sleepover. Turns out junk food, Colin Firth, and my nearest and dearest are the best bedmates I could ask for. While Fergie may admit to not staying single for long, I'm going to enjoy the time that I've got. Independence, of course, is totally a part of any relationship, but it can be downright self-indulgent when you're single. I can sleep in the middle of the bed, watch the Food Network 24/7, and my Netflix queue is a smörgåsbord of romantic comedies. So, this independence day, I'll buy my own beer, hang with the ladies, and lavish in the decadence of my liberty. 8 CommentsLeave a comment |
|
![[Self's Reach Your Goal ad]](http://elasticwaist.com/ads/slf_goals08_275x225.gif)
Send your queries to us at
info@elasticwaist.com Check out Elastic Waist on MySpace.com. Follow Weetabix on Twitter |
||||||||||||||
FEED ME
I so admire your strong sense of self. I particularly like that you don't leave your friends by the wayside. I've had so many friends who don't give their buddies a second thought when there's a guy in their lives. You know your priorities. Great column today.
Thanks for writing in support of single ladies! I feel the same way about relishing my single days. Most of my girl friends are coupled up and when they complain about their guys (which is rare) I just lend a sympathetic ear and thank goodness I don't have to deal with that right now. I recently got out of a short relationship and now I wonder why I ever bothered when I knew he was wrong for me. I'm so much more happy (and less crazy acting) when I'm by myself. It's also just fun to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want!! Thanks for writing!
I love this post! You're right on so many points (like, um, all of them...)
I just met a new guy and we've been hanging out a lot, and whoops - there goes my cardio schedule! Mix in many dinners out, a decent amount of drinking and you're right - guys are fattenning!
While I admit I do like the mental side of the single life, too - most of the time, occasionally I wish I had one of those big burly men to snuggle up to.
But all in all....singledom rocks! :)
I loved this! You never read BALANCE in a column, yet here we are speaking of the pleasures of being in a relationship and celebrating the pleasures (and rationality) of being single. Each way is the best way at different times in our lives, and coupledom certainly can be the best way only when we find a "worthy" other half for the coupling.
Kim does a great job of being rational about an emotional subject, and reminds us of the importance of friendship and independance.
I always feel like my friends feel sorry for me when I'm not dating anybody, but I totally enjoy being single. Maybe not forever, but I hate pushing a relationship that isn't really right for me. I believe it will happen when its meant to happen. This post reminds me that I am normal, despite my single status! Thanks.
Wow, y'all seem so happy to be basking in the glow of single life, it makes me rethink a lot of my own ideas about being in relationships. I guess because I'm so happy with my fiancee, I want all the ladies in my life to experience the same happiness. I rarely think about what I'm missing out on! Hmmm... food for thought.
Nothing can help re-charge you batteries better than a night with your girlfriends, be it all dolled up and out on the town or staying in with the men of the MKF "uncomfortable Colin Firth edition" My girlfriends are something like non-pharmaceutical Paxil.
Kudos to Kim for being able to see all the wonderful and positive aspects of being single and for being comfortable enough with herself and in her own skin to see that she is more than who she dates. It takes many women a lifetime to understand that.
Very well said Kim! While dating is a wonderful thing, it is also tiring and time consuming! I'm also going to celebrate my independence this weekend by doing something nice for myself.