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 Photo via Splash We often mention how guys are not immune to poor body image, except that for them, it doubly sucks because it's not socially acceptable for them to fret about the size of their ass. One of my favorite people on the planet sent me a link to the Perez Hilton sex scandal transcript (totally NSFW because there are mondo penii embedded within the text) and check out this snippet: Perez: I'm fairly good about being able to look objectively at myself. I'd rather wait until im not as much of a fat fucking cow. My goal is by the end of next year. :)And juxtapose this with a quote from last year's Rolling Stone article: "I don't like being a fat cow, but it's OK, because I love to eat, and whatever I love, I like to do a lot. What I don't understand is why I don't take better care of myself. At some point, I've got to commit to me."Poor, poor Perez. Personally, I don't care that he was trying to get laid or get jerk off material. Sex scandals are snoozers these days and who isn't trying to get some in some venue or another? What's surprising is this rare glimpse into his psyche. The phrase "fat fucking cow" carries with it so much loathing, is there any wonder that he's so adept at spewing negative talk about celebrities? What's interesting is that my read of Perez is that he's always had a slightly sympathetic stance on the fat or chubby celebs out there. He seems to disdain posers and haters and seems to favor taking swings at hubris over blatant body politics. This reminds me of a conversation I was having with my friend Shannon, where we were talking about the negative things we say to ourselves. Shannon said that if someone said about a friend the negative things she says to herself, she would absolutely destroy them, and I agreed, because I kind of want to slap the thing inside of Shannon that says horrible things about the Shannon I love so dearly. Sometimes the insidious things we say to ourselves happen so automatically that it doesn't even occur to us how awful and self-destroying they are. One of the things Corinna mentioned at last year's BlogHer was that her mom used to make her face a mirror and point out five things that she loved about herself every day, and Corinna still does that every morning. If we're being objective, Perez has beautiful eyes, a great giggle, a surprising and engaging fashion sense and, um, mad Photoshop skilz. JJ Jaxson points out that it's hard to keep from being shallow in L.A., a town built upon artifice, and that's true. I think the shallow comment is Perez's attempt at hiding his real feelings; the fact is he was a chubby teenager who was probably unpopular in school (and doesn't like to talk about his childhood) and now his phone number is stored in most of Tinseltown's cell phones. If that's not some cognitive dissonance (and mind blowing psychology), I don't know what is. And then there's this, from the same "scandal" transcript: Perez: it's cool. That doesn't mean I'm unhappy. It just means I'm working towards being happier. I finally started working out a few weeks ago and shit. Slow and steady. :)It seems a little defensive but obviously he's recognizing that this is some messed up logic. Perez has identified the problem, set a goal, and recognizes that progress is not immediate. Life is a process and patience is required. How very zen! You'd never have thought we could take those learnings from a blue-haired gossip blogger, would you? As controversial as he is, I think our little Mario is an optimist who really truly needs a hug and maybe a well-meaning female best friend who can shore up that broken little ego hiding behind all the fake semen pictures. Prediction: two years from now, he's going to be a makeover story on the cover of People, talking about how he lost 70 pounds and is now high on life. But really, I just want the boy to be happy. Fingers crossed. 5 CommentsLeave a comment |
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Two weeks ago the London Times ran an interview with Perez Hilton. The interviewer seemed preoccupied with his weight, from the pun in the title "Perez Hilton: the big fat gossip who won't shut up", to statements like "Before Mario was famous he used to have mousey hair and wear bland slacker clothes over a relatively slender, well-exercised body" and "If he shed the weight, Mario could be strikingly handsome", to the concluding paragraph "His obesity still puzzles me, considering his natural good looks, and I was reminded of what a clinically obese psychiatric nurse once said to me about “growing an extra layer to insulate myself from these people”. I can't imagine Hollywood is so different but Mario disagrees. “I'm like Oprah, I've been battling with my weight my whole life but I am trying to change my eating habits.” When he does, will a newer, less fame-obsessed Mario emerge? I doubt it."
Ive been loving the perez since he was page sixsixsix (remember that? and then page six sued him? classic)
actually I loved that perez more.
he hath become more successful and MORE MEANSNARKY-----but I digress.
I digress and wholly agree with the comment above.
I does seem like a form of insulation and he does laugh at himself (before others can? who can say) but it has GOT to hurt when described like that in the media huh?
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I never expected to find a certain . . . pathos . . . in this guy's situation.
Maybe I just feel a little sorry for a person who is afraid to get with someone because of shame over their weight, because that was me a year ago.
Perez embodies everything that pisses me off about the double standard of this society. As a fat person, I know first hand what it's like to be singled out and ridiculed for being different / looking different. I've felt pressure to do things I didn't really want to do / wasn't ready to do, in order to fit in / get someone to like me. Perez makes incredibly nasty comments about people he doesn't even know and has no direct contact with. Don't we hate it when people do this to us? Don't we hat the look of disdain at a restaurant when our plate is put in front of us? Don't you hate how people who don't even know you make assumptions about you? Why does he get defended for the same crap behavior that your high school's meathead jock practiced? Why??? Why do we preach acceptance and solidarity and how hard it is to live as a fat person in this appearance-obsessed world and then let him off the hook when his behavior is ugly? Like when he calls out the people who are allegedly gay - does he not understand how it hurts to be pressured into doing something you're not ready to do??? I have no sympathy for Perez. It's not about his body. it's about his horrid treatment of others.
Oooh, LJ, I don't think I was defending him at ALL for his annoying behavior. I was just pointing out that it seems like he pointedly pokes at hubris, at those people who act like they are better than everyone, while playing it nice on celebs who normally get raked over the body image coals, people like Kelly Osbourne and Beth Ditto.
In fact, I would argue that he's reliving high school and taking pot shots at the popular kids and enjoying this power, perhaps even justifying his actions that he's dishing out karma, an eye for an eye, etc. Do I think that's a good way to live your life? No. But I do think there's a definitive link between the way he feels about himself and the things he says about celebrities.