Anne doesn't claim to have the professional expertise, serious-looking credentials or the direct line to sexual and body-image nirvana—but she's been doing the naked thing for 20 years now, at every size from a 28W to a 10, and it hasn't killed her yet. She may not have all the answers, but Anne's got a few good ideas. Write now with your questions, from the silly to the serious, and she will have your fine, fine back.

T. writes: I feel so self-conscious in bed, because I don't like my body. How do I relax when I'm naked?

Oh god. It's hard to be naked in front of someone. Especially when you know you're making silly faces and twisting into funny positions and probably there will be weird noises and you have just got to wonder what you look like at that angle. I have heard all sorts of advice— stand nude and proud in front of a full-length mirror and glory in the sensuous curves of your womanflesh. Or write a list of everything you love about your body, star all the best parts—and presumably then memorize it and chant it in your head at those insecure naked moments. Turn the light off, clamp their hands on your tits if you’re worried about your butt, do it from behind if you hate your belly. I've tried one or maybe all of these. And sometimes it works, but sometimes, you feel kind of like a dope. And sometimes, you can't control the situation, and you're vulnerable.

But listen: before you ever got in bed with your partner, they pictured you naked in their head, and they liked every single inch. And now that you're actually naked and they get to put their hands on you? They're not thinking "OMG flaws!" they're thinking "Yes." You're naked, they're happy—do them (and yourself) a favor of going ahead and trying to believe them. It's not the magic make-it-go-poof solution—I don't think there is one, and I hate it as much as you do—but you'd be surprised at how much it can help. —Anne